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I’m sure we’ve all said that once or twice when we were a little whipper snappper. Most of the time it was just out of frustration from being disciplined or told that we can’t do something. “I can’t wait till I get older so I can ___________ (fill in the blank). At the time it was being said yea we meant it but after a couple minutes things would simmer down and we would go back to doing what kids do.

I’m sure we all also got that talk from our parents about what growing up is really about, responsibility. Told that we shouldn’t rush to grow up so fast and enjoy being a kid while we can. Told that we are living the good life. Well we all went through the growing pains and have come to see that our parents/elders were not lying at all, lol. Life is filled with responsibility and can sometimes be very harsh.

Now this leads me to the children of this generation. Each and every one so determined to grow up before their time. Trying so hard to be more than what they are, a child. Don’t get me wrong there are some exceptions where a child may have to do some growing up quick and take on extra responsibilities to help out. But that’s not what I am talking about. I’m speaking on the children who feel as if they are grown already and try to act as such. From the way they act and dress all the way to the lack of respect for elders (because they feel they are on the same level)

What happened to kids being kids? When I was younger I had a short list of things to worry about and I really wasn’t trying to add anything else to it. My mind was always on chillin’ outside with my friends, toys, games and allowance. Now a lot of kids seem to have their minds pre-occupied with everything else. Things they shouldn’t be worried about for a good long time. Maybe its the way our society seems to be so accepting of this now. Hey they must be right? You rarely hear or see anyone putting things into perspective for these kids, or keeping them in check, right?

I guess the point I’m trying to ultimately make is that this generation of kids really needs to slow down. They all want to be adults but don’t realize that you can’t just skip steps. There are things you must learn and understand, things you can’t learn in school. Things you will only learn with time. And also I feel as if many kids are missing out and cheating themselves by “forcing” themselves to grow up so quick.

To this day I sometime wish I could go back to those days when things were much simpler. No rent, no bills, no real responsibility. Just stay out of trouble, do what you’re supposed to in school, listen to your parents and do your chores. All the other stuff was taken care of already by your parents. A roof over your head, clothes and hot meals. It doesn’t get any simpler than that.

There are currently less than two weeks left until that day that most females and some males wait for. The holiday for the hopeless romantics, Valentine’s Day. Me personally I call it penetration day because well that pretty much all I care about on that day. Everything else I can care less about.

The whole point of the day for guys is pretty much spend money, get your girl a gift to avoid any confrontation with the misses then get reciprocated in some sort of way. For females however the whole day turns into one of two things

-Get upset at the world and be bitter because you are alone day.

-Valentines contest day. Which consist of females showing off to each other the gifts they’ve received and bragging about how much more their man loves them than the next woman. Ugh

Every single year its the same thing I see at the office. The week preceding V-day all of the single bitter folks will make it their point to testify about how much they don’t like the day and how it is a waste. Mind you these same people used to sing a different tune when they were in happy relationships. Now the day of is a whole different type of bafoonery in itself. No one ever wants to answer the phones. All of a sudden on this day people are jumping to the phones hoping that the next call will be for them to walk down to the reception desk to pick up a delivery. Most of the day is spent in anticipation.

All day people go back and forth showing off the flowers, gifts and chocolates that they received from their SO. The same person who last week was being called all sorts of ungodly things IF they even thought about not getting any type of gift for their SO, LOL. Its really all funny to me.

All the while there are the sideline haters sitting at their desk talking under their breathe each time a new valentines day gift or bouquet of flowers is delivered. They are the funniest to watch. Its amazing how this day affects people. I think it brings out the worst in people honestly.

Everyone focuses on this one day to show the person they care about just how much they love them. But isn’t that what they should be doing everyday? I always ask my girl this. “If I treat and spoil and pamper you this one day out the year, will it make up for all the other dumb stuff I’ve done throughout the year?” And her repsponse is always “Nope! But it will get you some.” So at that point I say well in that case my only goal for the day like many other days is “penetration”. There’s no need for me to go out my way to do some unbelievable stuff just so you can show off too your friends. And amazingly she agrees.

My lady has told me plenty of times that she would rather be with a person that will do right by her the other 364 days of the year, than to be with a person who cuts up all year then shows out on that one day. Maybe I just got lucky with mine, LOL.

So these next couple of days before the “Big Day” watch and see the madness that goes on around you. Especially the commercials that always suggest spend money to make her happy, LOL. Those are my favorite! If it isn’t a diamond don’t come with it. Remember fellas the ladies want kisses….but “Every kiss begins with Kay” No Hershey’s kisses accepted, lol

I’ve come to the conclusion that some people speak just to hear themselves. Rather than speak words that have meaning they just speak random nonsense just be heard by others. When in actuality they aren’t really saying anything. Does this make sense?

Let me explain. Usually when people speak they are trying to get a point across. I mean that is the point of communication right? You have something of worth to say so you say it. There are some who however just go on and on about random nothing-ness (is that even a word? LOL). Also there are those who speak with the purpose of getting attention but all the while what they are saying is pointless and has no meaning. Kind of like an empty promise. The latter of the two is mostly what I’m focusing on in this blog entry.

Now I’m sure all of us, well lets be honest, MOST of us think before we say something. The reason for this is so we don’t get caught out there saying something we regret later on. Also when you run your mouth so much your credibility tends to decrease greatly. I’m sure we all know of a person(s) who talks a good game about that they tend to do or what they are going to do, but they never get around to doing so. Or as I like to say “tomorrow never comes” for them. Sometimes the craziest thing happens. All of a sudden, out of the blue they really have something worth saying. I mean like this is it! The great idea or bit of news that they need to share. Now what do you think happens next? I think we all know the answer to this one. It’s kind of like the story of the boy who cried wolf. After a while no one cares, they’re still “just talking”.

Now no one listens attentively or takes them seriously at least. They get mad, they get upset. Why even bother? Honestly they should’ve seen it coming to begin with. No one will take them seriously for the simple fact that pretty much everything they say is for lack of a better word bulls*t.

So if you are one of these people I’m speaking about maybe you should try speaking less and being more genuine. You know “Mean what you say”. Words are very powerful and valuable, but they lose their worth and meaning when they are not treated as such. If you are going around spewing out nonsense constantly, that says a lot about who you are. If you don’t take yourself seriously, why would someone else? Not unless you’re in a situation where you’re so into the emptiness you speak that you begin to believe it yourself…..but that’s a whole other topic in itself. I’ll touch on that next time.